Not In The Mood? You Could Have Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

After several months of great sex with a lovely woman, we've gotten quite comfortable with talking about our mutual "sensations", and, one evening, I was curious about what she felt during our very first sexual encounter. We were both very aroused, and, at the time of entry, I felt an "electric" sensation, as if there was some kind of energy field surrounding my penis. It was so intense and over the top, that I lasted about 15 seconds. I didn't even feel badly for "going" so quickly, as I thought that if she felt half the sensation I'd felt at the time, no matter how brief, it had to be worth it for her, and I also thought that, for a woman to satisfy a man like that, it must be gratifying on an astral level as well. (By the way, duration is not any sort of current issue.) So anyway I asked her about what she "felt" relative to that first encounter, and she replied, "not much". Knowing we were both clearly aroused, this was a shock to me. Investigating the subject, I've learned that the interior surface of the vagina has no nerves and she can't feel anything in there when I am inside, other than the "pressure" of my penis pushing against the vagina wall or contacting the cervix. True, the outer labia and the clitoris have nerves more like mine, but that's it, except for perhaps the elusive "g-spot" on the inside that some women talk about.

It is a revelation to learn that she has no nerves in there otherwise, whereas my nerves run from tip to base. I've since surmised that she prefers that I spend more time with the tip of my penis near the outer portion of her vagina, almost as if I am withholding my full length for later. These differences are confusing and counter-intuitive from a male perspective and I believe this misunderstanding of the female innervation is the source of much female dissatisfaction.